Don’t Stop

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Don’t Stop

By |2018-08-02T15:10:37+00:00May 12th, 2015|Categories: Personal|3 Comments

This is my friend, Brian Bonham, braving the waterfall at Emerald Falls. (© Nicole S. Young —

For the past three months my husband and I have been making strides to improve our health. We’re eating better and exercising regularly, intent on losing weight and becoming stronger. So far, we have both seen success, and we’re still going strong. My husband, for example, has lost nearly 30 pounds! He’s doing such a wonderful job and I am so proud of him. Yet, even though we are both putting equal effort and discipline into this endeavor, my results pale in comparison. In 10 weeks I have lost (drum-roll please) five tiny little pounds.

It can be easy to compare my results with my husband’s and get discouraged. Why am I losing so little weight when I am doing everything right and working just as hard? And even though that question pops into my head regularly, I don’t let it get to me. For me, those five pounds are a lot! I am seeing results, I am improving, it’s just that my body works differently and it will take me longer to reach my goal.

All of this holds true in just about everything in life. You may see other people succeed so easily, all the while you are working your butt off and only making pennies. Or maybe you are trying to master a certain skill or software application and find it difficult, only to see others understand it immediately. We all improve and succeed at different paces, sometimes regardless of the effort put forth.

It’s also important to understand that each of us has strengths. Some are God-given talents and others come from years of practice. We also all have weaknesses, but others are more likely to only share only the good stuff. All of our online lives are curated.

Learning something new or improving at something you already know takes dedication. But let’s be honest, it’s much easier said than done. I intentionally carve out time each day to stay on track with my goals, whether it’s fitness, diet, or improving my skills for my job. Do it often enough and it becomes a habit. Keep doing it for months and it eventually becomes your life. In time, you will see results.

Just don’t stop. You will reach your goal, your skills will improve, and you will see a difference. Trust me … you’re worth it.

About the Author:

Nicole S. Young is a professional photographer and published author whose love of photography and teaching has grown into an online business where she creates training materials and resources for other photographers. Nicole is best known for her books on food photography, but is widely versed in a variety of photographic genres, including landscape, travel, lifestyle, and even underwater photography. You can learn more about Nicole's work on her website,


  1. -N- May 14, 2015 at 5:00 pm - Reply

    Nicole – maybe I am stepping on toes here, so please accept my apologies if I am. Losing weight is different for men and women. Men have more muscle mass, so produce and use energy at greater levels than women. It’s easier for them to lose weight. Women are designed to store fat, for pregnancy. Metabolism really does play into this. As well, physical conditions can be a factor in slow on nonexistent weight loss. Thyroid issues, being on the pill, various medications, high carbohydrate intake, or conditions/diseases such as Hashimoto’s. Consult your physician if you have been really good about this – there could be an underlying problem. Also, check your carb intake – too much, and you can mess up all your hard work. Meanwhile, keep on trucking! I like My Fitness Pal to track things. Good luck!

    • Nicole S. Young May 15, 2015 at 2:23 pm - Reply

      Everything you said, yes, I totally know all of that! And no apology required. We’ve cut almost all refined sugar from our diets and get fruit from natural sources (fruit, etc.), and have cut our portion sizes down quite a bit. I allow myself 3 (max) beer/wines per week (to stay sane). We both do weights and cardio. I know what I am doing is working, it’s just at a much slower pace. We have both found a method that works for both of us, it’s just so not fair that guys can lose it all so quickly ;)

  2. nemida July 4, 2015 at 5:22 am - Reply

    Hey :)
    It’s a long trip, the important thing is that you made the decision. And more importantly, you are not alone but with your husband.
    Get rid of refined flour and sugar, as you did, also try to read the products label, because the most important enemy here is the sugar and boy it is in everywhere. The less ingredients, the best. Instead of buying that turkey-salami thing, buy chicken or turkey breast (low heat cooking) (it has tons of sugar and sodyum). Your body does need sugar and sodyum, but in a natural way, as you do with the fruits (just eat ’em in the first part of the day), never in the afternoon and beyond.
    Try to exercise with weights, do not afraid of the big ones cuz us, as women, we do not release as much testosterone as men, and we are not getting big, unless we do steroids. When you workout with weights you burn calories during the exercise and before it (your muscles are healing, so it burns calories), but doing cardio, you just burn calories during the exercise.
    The proper way of working is first weights (to burn the energy) and then cardio (to burn the fat). Try to work every muscle.
    Eat five times per day (as natural as possible, if you do this, you deserve a cheat meal), try to add proteins in every meal. And of course, if you want a beer, go get it, not every night haha

    You do this, in three months, you’ll see
    In the states you have Wholefoods, Trader joes or Farmers market.

    So to finish, the important thing is: get rid of processed food, workout (stretch is VERY IMPORTANT) a lot and the weekly cheat meal, to destress the body and the mind :)

    Ahm sorry for my english :(

    Good luck!

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