Early today I was thinking about something that I knew could be summed up in a blog post. And when writing blog posts, the title is a big deal. The only title I could think of that would work for this thought was “The ‘In Between'”, but I knew deep-down in my gut that I had already used that for another post.
So, I did a search on my blog, and low-and-behold, there it was. An article with that title, written exactly one year ago today. Huh, that’s quite a coincidence. When I saw that, I knew that this post had to happen. And so, here it is.
We all have our “in-between” moments in life. Moving, job hunting, relationship-mending. Each of these things has something in common: we are moving on from one thing and looking forward to the next. The problem with these moments is that we rarely tend to savor those moments of waiting. We are busy, trying to finish whatever it is we are working on, quietly looking forward to being past that deadline or have the house finally cleaned … for what? So that we can start living?
One thing I have learned in the 35 years I have lived on this planet is to savor, be present, and live in every moment. Each and every second of my life is precious and worthy of my undivided attention. I am grateful that it hasn’t taken a terminal illness or near-death experience to realize this. Maybe I have just learned from others experiences, or my active imagination can paint too-accurate of a picture of how fragile our lives really are. Whatever the reason, I’m happy I’ve found it.
When I analyze my life, I always feel like I’m in some sort of in-between. Usually it has to do with work, or travel, or even the way I think about myself when I look in the mirror. But the pile of projects and deadlines doesn’t stop me from relaxing with a cup of coffee, taking my dog on a long walk, or just strolling through the woods to get some fresh air. I refuse to chain myself to my computer under the cultural guise that being “busy” is a good thing. Sure, I have a lot of work, but I have found that pacing myself allows me to live my day stress-free and filled with a simple sort of happiness.
I think the point I’m trying to make is this: If this very moment you found out that you had just a few months left to live, what would you do with the life that you have left? Now take that answer, and make it your life. Travel, family, giving, volunteering, and spending time with loved ones should not be the things we do when we know we have limited time on this earth, because in reality, we all have very little time left. I realize that everyone has responsibilities and bills to pay, but as the song goes, “The best things in life are free”. Be present in your own life, savor it, and turn those in-between moments into memories.